I own a spa but I wouldn’t say it is easy for me to get services for myself. It is definitely accessible but not always easy. Truthfully, I still feel guilty sometimes when I take time for myself…. whether is to get my lashes filled, get a massage or even a facial. I am a walking billboard for my business so I need to have good lashes and good skin so that I can promote my business but I still feel guilty sometimes. I work on clients in my treatment room all day and hold my babies at home all night so my body needs work, massage therapy, and I still feel guilty sometimes.
As a woman, I like to take care of myself, but most of the time I want to put everyone else before myself. I think that is how most women are wired. We take care of our husbands. We take care of our kids. We take care of our parents. We take care of our home. We take care of our careers. We need to start feeling like it is ok and necessary to take time for ourselves and stop feeling the self-care shame!
So what do we do?
These are a few things that I think may help…
- Set your alarm a little bit earlier every morning before your kids, spouse, partner wakes up. Take this quite, precious time to drink coffee, pray, meditate, journal, organize your thoughts, or to organize your day. This habit is hard to start but so valuable for those who feel like there just aren’t enough hours in the day for “me” time.
- Schedule “me” time just like you would any other appointment. Mark it down. Set up alerts. Commit to it. Make it a priority even if it is only once a week or month.
- Buddy up with a friend that so that you both can be accountable to each other to make it happen! Schedule facials or massages at the same time. Go to a yoga class together. Go to the park and read a book. You still are having “me” time just with a buddy.
- Detox from all things digital. Social media can be a blessing and a curse. It is amazing on so many levels but it can also make us feel guilty or inadequate in many areas of our lives, marriages, families, careers, etc. Shut it off. Instead of scrolling for an hour before bed, turn off your phone and read a book, take a bath, pray, meditate, drink a glass of wine under the stars. Take “me” time without zoning out and looking at what everyone else is doing.
Taking time for yourself may not be easy but hopefully you stop feeling as guilty about it.